When you experience something tragic, it might be difficult to think that life will ever be normal again. You might get so caught up in your feelings that they overwhelm you. But just like everything in life, emotions aren’t permanent. They arise and go. There always comes a period when it is time to accept them and move on so that you can create room for happier moments.
The first step to working through feelings of grief, for example, is to accept that they are there. Don’t try to deny it or force it down. Otherwise, they become unresolved instead of healed. Allow yourself to feel the grief. Cry when you want to, take a break from the outside world if that’s what will help you. Extreme emotions are very normal and human. “Sucking it up and moving on” can be likened to emotional bypassing.
Reflection:
Begin to dig deeper as to why you are feeling this emotion. You can carry out this step after you’ve given yourself the appropriate time to grief. The way you can do this is by allowing yourself to feel the sensation of the emotion in your body before you classify it as one emotion or the other. This sensation is why sometimes we have difficulties differentiating our feelings – because it can be hard to tell what is what. The sensation might feel tingly or hot. Trace it back to the root cause. Then ask yourself what it is in particular that is making you feel the way you’re feeling.
For some people who are experiencing heartbreak, according to Susan Winter, a leading relationship expert and love coach, a reason for the difficulty in letting go of someone is the letting go of “the dream.” When in a relationship with someone, a dream arises. The dream of achieving goals together, a new workout partner, traveling the world together, and a happily ever after. So not only are you now dealing with the loss of a partner, you are also dealing with the loss of a possibility. Reflecting on the feelings can bring the underlying cause of those emotions to the surface so that you can adequately deal with them.
Acceptance:
It’s easy to remain in denial. You might constantly ruminate on the issue and wonder what could have been done differently. It’s hard to accept this change or occurrence. But there is no undo button for life. Whatever has happened has happened. It’s now time to accept that and try to move on. Try to continue your life without that thing, that person, or that circumstance or whatever it is that is making you feel this way. Life is constantly changing. The one thing that doesn’t change is that life is constantly changing. We’re always going through transitions and upgrades, or what might feel like a downgrade for some. Life is about learning to deal with whatever these changes bring, no matter how you feel about them. (See expert advice on releasing suppressed emotions).
Resolution:
Do the things that once made you happy or brought you joy. Immersing yourself in the things that you enjoy is a good way to move from the process of grieving to a healing stage. Let go of the items that remind you of the situation. Surround yourself with people you love and love you back. And speak to a licensed therapist if necessary.
Learning to gain control over our emotions is essential. While it is important to lead with your heart, it’s also important to balance that with logic. Your feelings can make you do actions that you might not particularly want. Which might lead to regret.
Once you become aware of the emotion you are feeling, notice where it is in your body. You may feel it as a stomachache, a tightening of your throat, the pounding of your heart, or tension somewhere. Sit with this anger, anxiety, depression, grief, guilt, sadness, shame, or whatever emotion you are experiencing. Become aware of it and don’t ignore it. If this is difficult, get up and walk around or get a cup of tea.
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